I Hope They Call Her on a Mission (Weekend Poll)

By: wheatmeister
February 15, 2014

Mormon mission or girls night out?

Should women be under the same obligation as men to serve missions?  What should that obligation be exactly?

Should women have the same pressure to serve missions as boys?

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8 Responses to I Hope They Call Her on a Mission (Weekend Poll)

  1. IDIAT on February 15, 2014 at 1:05 PM

    I think the handbook says serving a mission is a privilege, and that young men are to be encouraged to serve where circumstances allow because it is a priesthood responsibility as opposed to a duty. That might be splitting hairs. Phrasing it like that means ultimately it is a personal choice, yet parents and leaders are to encourage such choice to lean towards service. I don’t know that much can be done to lessen the cultural pressure to serve given the strong encouragement that is to be given.

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  2. Kullervo on February 15, 2014 at 4:20 PM

    IDIAT: distinction without a difference.

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  3. The Other CLark on February 15, 2014 at 7:41 PM

    I voted for the priesthood duty for men option, as this is current church policy, and my personal belief. However, I don’t know that it’s the most effective.

    Despite the consistent pressure/encouragement given to every YM to serve a mission for nearly 40 years (certainly since SWKimball’s 1976 address), the number of YM actually serving is matched by the number of sisters, once other significant factors (like age requirements) are taken into account. SO maybe less pressure would actually yield better results? It would certainly sift out some of the non-committed/unworthy/unfit YM who only serve because of cultural pressure.

    OTOH, maybe the priesthood duty doctrine was in place in the past to teach men how to lead, becasue he was going to marry and become presiderer in chief, But now that the church has moved to a husband-and-wife-are-both-leaders model, perhaps there’s no real compelling reason for men to go in prefernece to women.

    I sense some disagreement among the 12 on this topic (of sister missionaries), for Elder Hollands remarks seem far more welcoming to sisters than Pres. Hinckley’s. Just a few random thoughts…

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  4. Alo on February 16, 2014 at 12:09 PM

    I’ve never liked the pressure that is put on YM, my own brother felt so pressured to serve a mission that when he rightly decided he couldn’t serve, he could no longer stand going to church after because of the stigma.
    My husband did not surve a mission due to health reasons, but he still felt incredible pressure and judgment from members, he considered going anyway just to be able to say he did, in hopes it would shut everyone up about it. Luckily he didn’t cave to that pressure. Had he gone, his health would have surely deteriorated, and sent home early. And we all know how it would be better to be sent home in a coffin *sarcasm*

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  5. wreddyornot on February 16, 2014 at 6:24 PM

    I am repenting. It’s taken me until my sixties to realize how very unfair men are and have been to women. (I realize that’s a broad statement and that there are and have been exceptions.) Still, I vote for opportunities for women. I know of no way to make up for millennia of unfairness and male privilege, but given the opportunity I’d like to point out how male centered we men have been and still are. There is nothing men can do that women cannot and should not do too. We men need to repent.

    Where is my Mother in Heaven?

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  6. Toni on February 18, 2014 at 4:45 PM

    I got “Failed To Verify Referrer” which I get most of the time when I attempt to vote on a poll on this site. However, my answer would be – ” Mission service should be a personal choice for both, not mandatory.”

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  7. Douglas on February 20, 2014 at 2:16 PM

    I had to pick “PH duty” b/c for all practical purposes it is. Sure, there are extenuating circumstances that preclude a young man’s eligibility to serve a mission (health problems, mental or emotional issues, legal and/or moral troubles), but I have heard more than a few Conference talks wherein a young fellow that declines to serve is greasing the skids to Hades. Of course, it can be carried to extreme. If I had a 32 y.o. single male recent convert, professional and home owner, and he inquired about the necessity of serving a fulltime mission, I’d probably tell him that while the desire to serve is highly laudable, age and circumstances have all but relieved him of that duty. Unless somehow it were necessary for this man to serve with missionaries some 14 years his junior, it’d probalby be better that he simply served locally and commenced the search for an eternal companion.

    I’d say that with the lowering of the age to 19 for young women, the Church is deliberately making a mision a rite of passage for them as well, and is actually doing a better thing in that the prior cultural impression , by making women wait until age 21, was “well, if you can’t snag a husband, then you may as well go out into the mission field, where you’ll look good to those sex-starved elders…”. Cripes, at my current age (a few weeks shy of 55), even the sisters in their early 20′s are but children to me. If the ranks of serving missionaries well with a greater distaff force, it should be fine. I think of the well-known poster from WWII showing a young “Rosie the Riveter” flexing her bicep (“We can do it!”). Someone’s gotta come up with an LDS YW equivalent. Still, it should be culturally considered as an OPTION, with no denigration going either way.

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  8. Caly Phillips on March 1, 2014 at 1:24 PM

    I think that if a young man is able he should if able, if a young woman wants to she can. I married someone who did not go on a mission, but i view him no less because he did not. He was a convert, he did not get a chance to go, Wales is poor, the ward could only support so many at one time which may seem off but if you knew Wales you would understand. I wanted to go, but because of personal medical reasons, nothing moral, I was not able to go. I got my endowments out though and did temple work that was sufficient for me. I married in the temple, I see no lack in my life in that way. I have a niece who wishes to go, and if she does, great. I have a Aunt who is doing a older mission ( she is in her 60′s and single) She loves it. I think it all depends on your capability, if it feels right to you- male or female and no one should look down on anyone who did not.

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