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BYU Rape Myths

May 24, 2016
BYU Rape Myths

There has been push back among conservatives within the church (most notably the church’s PR team in their defensive reply to Salt Lake Tribune coverage of the Title IX violations at BYU) about the term rape culture as applied to the issues at BYU.  These concerns stem from a misunderstanding of the term rape culture as […]

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Are Addictions and Free agency compatible?

May 23, 2016
Are Addictions and Free agency compatible?

A few weeks ago, I discussed Utah’s attempts to call porn a public health crisis. I don’t think such a designation is useful for a few reasons: (1) the Utah Legislature allocated no funds to combat the problem, (2) there is considerable debate about whether porn or sex addiction is a legitimate scientific condition, and […]

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Posted in Agency, Christian, Culture, Morality, Mormon, Mormon Culture, Science and Religion | 26 Comments »

Likes, Dislikes, and Ironic Liking

May 17, 2016
Likes, Dislikes, and Ironic Liking

Why do we like the things we like?  Why do we prefer certain things? I was reading in Adam Miller’s book Rube Goldberg Machines:  Essays in Mormon Theology.  In the second essay, Notes on Life, Grace, and Atonement, he talks about how we allow distractions like preferences, hopes and fears remove us from the present, and […]

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Posted in Agency, Criticism, Culture, doubt, Education, Empathy, Faith, faith crisis, Freedom, LDS, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion, understanding, Women | 15 Comments »

Belief vs. Faith

May 10, 2016
Belief vs. Faith

A recent Relief Society lesson was using the terms belief and faith interchangeably, which reminded me of a post I did a long time ago that I thought I would revisit. Belief vs. Faith Belief is defined as “an acceptance that a statement is true or that something exists” and also “trust, faith, or confidence […]

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Posted in Agency, Blind Obedience, Culture, doubt, emotions, Empathy, Faith, faith crisis, Freedom, LDS, Morality, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion, Religion | 12 Comments »

Is Utah’s Porn Problem Really a Public Health Crisis?

May 9, 2016
Is Utah’s Porn Problem Really a Public Health Crisis?

Hey Bloggernacle. All those snarky comments complaining about Utah’s porn use have been heard.  The problem is, I don’t think you’re going to like Utah’s solution.  Several media outlets, such as the Deseret News, and the Washington Post, are reporting that Utah is the first in the nation to declare that porn is a public health […]

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Posted in Agency, Church Policy, Culture, LDS, leadership, Morality, Mormon, Mormon Culture | 35 Comments »

Listen

May 4, 2016

Listen.  I mean really listen. Turn off the music.  Just sit and listen for a few moments.  What do you hear?  Water dripping.  Children playing?  The whisper of an overhead fan?  Distant traffic?  The wind in the trees?  A weed trimmer next door?  What were you thinking just now?  When you focused on the silence, […]

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Posted in Agency, Culture, Education, Freedom, LDS, LGBT, Religion, scriptures | 16 Comments »

The Mirror & The Window

May 3, 2016
The Mirror & The Window

At the April Women’s Conference, Cheryl Esplin used the imagery of a mirror and a window to talk about reaching out to others. ‘Be someone who reaches out to know and serve others—throw away the mirrors and look through the window.’. Business people will know very well the imagery of the mirror and the window, […]

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To Be Honest

May 2, 2016
To Be Honest

Mormons consider honesty to be an important virtue, and who doesn’t?  I learned pretty quick that my mom would punish me for lying → could read my mind → so I might as well tell the truth When I told a whopper, my mom made me suck on a bar of Ivory™, perhaps in the […]

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Posted in Agency, Culture, doubt, emotions, Empathy, Faith, Freedom, Morality, Mormon, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion | 53 Comments »

The Prodigal Daughter

May 2, 2016
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My daughter is going to girls camp soon, and the stake recently invited Al Fox Carraway to speak.  I have seen people post info about her on Facebook, but wasn’t really familiar with her.  It was interesting to hear her speak.  She is not your prototypical soft-spoken Mormon woman who speaks with a primary voice.  She […]

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Posted in Agency, Grace, LDS, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Spirituality, Women | 11 Comments »

Are Mormons Happy?

April 27, 2016
Are Mormons Happy?

Wheat & Tares is pleased to feature today’s guest post. Mormons clearly value happiness on Earth, and they have the pithy quotes to prove it.  If you ask me (and nobody is) happiness is pretty much the point of any spiritual journey.  I mean, deep down, the idea of eternal bliss after death ought to make life […]

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Posted in Agency, Christian, Church Policy, Criticism, Culture, emotions, Empathy, Faith, faith crisis, gender equity, LDS, Mental Health, Morality, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion, Pride, Religion, Women | 72 Comments »

Emotional Labor

April 26, 2016
Emotional Labor

“Women are just better at that stuff.”  This is a phrase often used to wash one’s hands of an unpleasant task.  It reminds me of something I hear sometimes from customers:  “Hispanics just clean houses better than other people.”  If so, why is that?  Not because there’s a house cleaning gene that they are passing […]

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Posted in Agency, Criticism, Culture, emotions, Empathy, Faith, faith crisis, Feminism, Freedom, gender equity, Gratitude, LDS, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion, Patriarchy, Priesthood, Temple, theology, Women, workplace | 29 Comments »

Natural Consequences

April 21, 2016
Natural Consequences

An overarching sense of justice runs through Mormon beliefs. “And thus we see” is usually followed by a nightmare scenario for those who weren’t listening to God in the first place.  Our young women stand and chant a mantra every week that includes embracing the virtue of “Choice & Accountability.” And if you paid any […]

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Posted in Agency, BYU, BYU-Idaho, Feminism, Honor Code, Modesty, Mormon Culture, Patriarchy, Women | 67 Comments »

Mormon Feminism: An Anthology for the Ages

April 18, 2016
Mormon Feminism:  An Anthology for the Ages

“We began as a group of women talking about our lives.”  So begins the collection of essays that comprise Mormon Feminism:  Essential Writings (in the words of Claudia Bushman).  And so begins feminism in general, for certainly this is how women shared their experiences and talked about their struggles.  There’s something powerful about a group of women talking […]

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Posted in Agency, Charity, Christian, Church Policy, Criticism, Culture, Doctrine, Empathy, Faith, faith crisis, Feminism, LDS, leadership, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion, Women | 29 Comments »

Refugees of Our Own Making

April 12, 2016
Refugees of Our Own Making

Today we are honored to hear from guest blogger, Bryce Cook. Two of the most moving talks at this month’s General Conference were Sister Linda Burton’s “I Was a Stranger” and Elder Patrick Kearon’s “Refuge from the Storm,” which were about administering relief to the world’s refugees. The Church has even set up a special website to educate people […]

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Posted in Agency, America, Charity, Christian, Church Policy, Criticism, Culture, Doctrine, Empathy, Freedom, gender equity, LDS, LGBT, Mental Health, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion | 33 Comments »

Honorable Mention Dissidents?

April 11, 2016
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A few weeks ago, Rock Waterman announced that he was pleased to be included in a list of top ten LDS Dissidents and Troublemakers.  I read through the list of the top ten, wondering why John Dehlin was merely an honorable mention.  I also wondered who Adrian Larsen was.  I had never heard of him. […]

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Posted in Agency, Apostasy, Blind Obedience, Criticism, Culture, Excommunication, Faith, Jesus, Joseph Smith, LDS, LGBT, Mormon, Mormon Culture, Reviews | 17 Comments »

Church as a Gated Community

March 28, 2016
Church as a Gated Community

At the end of the book Planted, Patrick Mason makes the analogy of church being like living in a gated community, but one with open gates that welcomes others to come in. In the meantime, we live in houses in a gated community that paradoxically swings open its gate for all to enter.  Yet like […]

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Posted in Agency, America, Criticism, Culture, Faith, faith crisis, Freedom, LDS, leadership, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion, Religion | 40 Comments »

TW: Trigger Warnings

March 22, 2016
TW:  Trigger Warnings

For those who participate in online discussion forums, you have doubtless encountered what are termed “trigger warnings.”  There seem to be two schools of thought about them.  One school says they are necessary to protect individuals in discussions from the emotional distress of reliving past traumatic events.  Another school says that everything’s becoming a trigger […]

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Posted in Agency, Criticism, Culture, faith crisis, Feminism, Freedom, gender equity, LDS, Mental Health, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion, Patriarchy, Politics, Race Relations, Violence, Women, workplace | 24 Comments »

Does God Agree With Your Politics?

March 16, 2016
Does God Agree With Your Politics?

My opinion is not a popular one, especially among Mormons. It’s based on one of my foundational beliefs that I still maintain from my days as a centrist: both sides of our political divide are founded on sound principles that are imperfectly applied – because we’re humans. (Just like I believe our Church organization is […]

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Posted in Agency, Alternative Sunday School Lessons, America, economics, Freedom, History, money, Mormon Discussion, Politics | 20 Comments »

The Mormon Urge to Glurge

March 15, 2016
The Mormon Urge to Glurge

glurge (GLURJ) n. A sentimental or uplifting story, particularly one delivered via e-mail, that uses inaccurate or fabricated facts; a story that is mawkish or maudlin; the genre consisting of such stories. Not a day goes by that I do not get some sort of email glurge from a relative, old friend or ward member. […]

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Posted in Agency, Criticism, Culture, emotions, Empathy, Gratitude, LDS, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Sunday School, Truth. Lying | 40 Comments »

Of Brazen Serpents and Golden Calves

March 10, 2016
Of Brazen Serpents and Golden Calves

He removed the high places, and brake the images, and cut down the groves, and brake in pieces the brasen serpent that Moses had made … It is interesting to compare brass serpents and golden calves and other things.  By taking the two different images  that were raised it, it lets me compare and contrast […]

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