Agency

O Say, What is Doubt?

May 19, 2015
O Say, What is Doubt?

E. Bednar’s recent comments disparaging doubt (in an innovative youth meeting with a Q&A) seem to imply a different definition of the word than most who experience doubt would use, as evidenced by some of the chatter about it.  Why is that?  Let’s explore what he and other church leaders might mean when they talk […]

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Posted in Agency, Charity, Criticism, Culture, debt, Faith, faith crisis, Freedom, General Conference, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion | 66 Comments »

Football, CTE, and Agency

May 18, 2015
Football, CTE, and Agency

Athletes, especially football players, have been involved in some high-profile violent incidents. Dec 16, 2009.  Cincinnati Bengals wide receiver Chris Henry had a domestic dispute with his fiance Loleini Tonga.  She tried to get away by getting into a pickup truck.  He climbed in the back, and while she was driving, either fell or jumped out […]

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Posted in Agency, LDS, Mental Health, Mormon, Science and Religion, Violence | 35 Comments »

“I Can’t. I’m Mormon.”

May 12, 2015
“I Can’t.  I’m Mormon.”

A few years ago, my boss excitedly said she had a real treat for the two of us to share.  It was a special tea from London that someone had bought her on a business trip.  I explained that I didn’t drink tea (although I do drink herbal tea).  She asked why I didn’t drink […]

Posted in Agency, Criticism, Culture, Feminism, Freedom, LDS, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion, Uncategorized, War in Heaven | 46 Comments »

Criticism

April 28, 2015
Criticism

I was thinking about E. Oaks’ comments in General Conference about criticism.  Talking about things that prevent us from benefiting from the gospel, he said: Another potential destroyer of spiritual roots—accelerated by current technology but not unique to it—is the keyhole view of the gospel or the Church. This limited view focuses on a particular doctrine or […]

Posted in Agency, Apostasy, Blind Obedience, Criticism, Culture, emotions, Faith, faith crisis, Freedom, General Conference, LDS, leadership, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion, Pride, Priesthood | 42 Comments »

Gaslighting and You

April 27, 2015
Gaslighting and You

Preface. I’ve written about communicating with general authorities and others in a hierarchy, and about understanding people who have spent most of their lives spending most of their time deferring gratification and caring for others. The last significant post in that series was “On Being Heard.” This post takes up where that left off, years […]

Posted in Agency, Apostasy, Criticism, Culture, emotions, Empathy, Faith, Freedom, LDS, Mental Health, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion, Uncategorized | 16 Comments »

Top 10 Rejected Ideas for Keeping Millenials in the Church

April 21, 2015
Top 10 Rejected Ideas for Keeping Millenials in the Church

It’s no secret that church leaders are concerned about those who leave, particularly those of the rising generation.  What is less well known is the strategy to help them stay active in the church and into their adult lives. Less well known until now that is.  The following list was found in a secret trash […]

Posted in Agency, Church Policy, Faith, gender equity, General Conference, LDS, leadership, LGBT, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion | 15 Comments »

Sarcasm

April 14, 2015
Sarcasm

I’m addicted to exercise.  And by exercise, I mean sarcasm. An article about sarcasm recently explained why sarcastic people are smarter on average:  because sarcasm requires more mental effort than just plain speech.  Which is probably why when someone fails to grasp it, my first instinct is to think they are too stupid to follow. […]

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Posted in Agency, Criticism, Culture, emotions, Feminism, Freedom, gender equity, General Conference, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion, Resting bitch face | 36 Comments »

April 2015 Gen Conf in GIFs

April 7, 2015
April 2015 Gen Conf in GIFs

For those who watched at home, this General Conference was one for the ages with many excellent talks and a few exciting moments.  Read on. What were your favorite parts? Discuss.

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Posted in Agency, Church Policy, Criticism, Culture, Doctrine, emotions, Faith, faith crisis, Feminism, Freedom, LDS, leadership, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion | 20 Comments »

My So-Called Post

March 31, 2015
My So-Called Post

I’m a word nerd, so I always find it interesting when a simple change to grammar alters the meaning of a word or sentence.  Time magazine recently pointed out one grammatical faux pas:  using “actually” can be a red flag. From this article (reprinted from Inc.): Extra words used in a sales presentation or investor pitch are […]

Posted in Agency, Criticism, Culture, Feminism, gender equity, General Conference, leadership, LGBT, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion | 25 Comments »

Northern Ireland’s Gay Cake

March 26, 2015
Northern Ireland’s Gay Cake

Today and tomorrow the case brought by Gareth Lee, a volunteer with the Queer Space collective, supported by the Equality Commission of Northern Ireland against Asher’s Bakery supported by The Christian Institute is to be heard in court. So far as I can tell, this particular cake differs from similar cases in the US in […]

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Posted in Agency, Christian, Culture, Freedom, LGBT, Morality, Politics, Uncategorized | 26 Comments »

Marriage For Now

March 23, 2015
Marriage For Now

Is it looking past the mark to think of our marriages as eternal rather than thinking of what we need in the here and now and in the near future?  Do we focus so much on eternity that we are just barely enduring to the end in the day-to-day marriage? Last week I re-posted a review […]

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Posted in Agency, BYU, Culture, economics, Education, emotions, Feminism, Freedom, gender equity, LDS, Morality, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion | 37 Comments »

On Being Wrong

March 18, 2015
On Being Wrong

So let me ask you guys something. How does it feel — emotionally — how does it feel to be wrong? Dreadful. Thumbs down. Embarrassing. Okay, wonderful, great. Dreadful, thumbs down, embarrassing — thank you, these are great answers, but they’re answers to a different question. You guys are answering the question: How does it […]

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Posted in Agency, Blind Obedience, Church Policy, Criticism, Culture, emotions, Morality | 10 Comments »

The Myth of Traditional Marriage

March 17, 2015
The Myth of Traditional Marriage

According to the song, love and marriage go together like a horse and carriage.  But when it comes to the history of marriage, pairing marriage with love is putting the cart before the horse.  If we look at why people used to get married, traditionally, we’ll quickly see why marriages today are less stable.  And why […]

Posted in Agency, America, Church Policy, Criticism, Culture, economics, Education, emotions, Europe, Feminism, Freedom, gender equity, LDS, money, Morality, Mormon, Mormon Culture, understanding, Violence, Women | 73 Comments »

Is Belief in Polygamy Required for Church Membership?

March 10, 2015
Is Belief in Polygamy Required for Church Membership?

A blogger faces excommunication for his OP stating that he does not believe D&C 132 and the early church practice of polygamy to have been inspired.  In his blog post, he affirms that marriage is between one man and one woman, the church’s current teaching.  If I were tasked with defending this individual, here’s what […]

Posted in Agency, Apostasy, Blind Obedience, Book of Mormon, Criticism, Culture, Doctrine, doubt, Faith, Freedom, gender equity, LDS, leadership, Morality, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion, Patriarchy, Polygamy, Prophet, scriptures, Temple, theology, Women | 111 Comments »

That Moment When You Realize You Are Talking to Crazy People

March 2, 2015
That Moment When You Realize You Are Talking to Crazy People

Have you ever been in a discussion at church in which the discussion was so far afield that you found yourself thinking “We have completely lost it.  We are talking total nonsense”? Recently I was called to be the ward trek coordinator. [1]  Our stake has never done a pioneer trek before, so I’m not […]

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Posted in Agency, Church Policy, Criticism, Culture, emotions, Freedom, LDS, leadership, Mental Health, Morality, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture | 65 Comments »

Dating is Dead

February 24, 2015
Dating is Dead

Last year, when my son was attending the Y, I was alerted to the existence of a Facebook group at BYU for kids to anonymously post notes about their crushes.  The student submits a comment about their crush to the FB group admins who then re-post it anonymously from the site.  Site admins try to identify crushes […]

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Posted in Agency, BYU, Education, Morality, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Uncategorized | 26 Comments »

Talks About Talks

February 17, 2015
Talks About Talks

Who came up with the idea of doing lessons and talks about talks, including very recent talks?  Is this an activity that removes us from our own serious personal study of the gospel or does it elevate current teachings with scripture and bolster current leaders’ authority by studying their words?  Is it a worthwhile practice? […]

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The Reform LDS Church? I Doubt It

February 15, 2015
The Reform LDS Church? I Doubt It

One of the more peculiar comments I’ve seen made by those who claim to be “non-orthodox” Mormons is that the Church has no alternate, more flexible option that accommodates those who hold, what they might describe as, more liberal views regarding key Church doctrines and practices while retaining their cultural identities as Mormons. The example […]

Posted in Agency, Community of Christ, Culture, Jewish Studies, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Roman Catholic Church | 77 Comments »

The Faith Crisis Biz

February 10, 2015
The Faith Crisis Biz

A recent Trib article explains that Mormon Stories and other monetized podcasts have been a sole source of income for some of the individuals that conduct the interviews.  This isn’t a surprise to many people, although it’s impressive that there’s been enough donated to support salaries for individuals’ families. At some point, all Mormon blogs […]

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Taking My Baal and Going Home

February 5, 2015
Taking My Baal and Going Home

I recently checked the 2013 edition of the scriptures for an entry in the Bible Dictionary that should have been corrected. This is what I gave them as feedback on the site form that asks for it: “Baal.  Possessor, lord. The Sun-god and the male or generative principle in nature. He was worshipped with different […]

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