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The Mirror & The Window

May 3, 2016
The Mirror & The Window

At the April Women’s Conference, Cheryl Esplin used the imagery of a mirror and a window to talk about reaching out to others. ‘Be someone who reaches out to know and serve others—throw away the mirrors and look through the window.’. Business people will know very well the imagery of the mirror and the window, […]

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To Be Honest

May 2, 2016
To Be Honest

Mormons consider honesty to be an important virtue, and who doesn’t?  I learned pretty quick that my mom would punish me for lying → could read my mind → so I might as well tell the truth When I told a whopper, my mom made me suck on a bar of Ivory™, perhaps in the […]

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The Prodigal Daughter

May 2, 2016
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My daughter is going to girls camp soon, and the stake recently invited Al Fox Carraway to speak.  I have seen people post info about her on Facebook, but wasn’t really familiar with her.  It was interesting to hear her speak.  She is not your prototypical soft-spoken Mormon woman who speaks with a primary voice.  She […]

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Posted in Agency, Grace, LDS, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Spirituality, Women | 6 Comments »

Are Mormons Happy?

April 27, 2016
Are Mormons Happy?

Wheat & Tares is pleased to feature today’s guest post. Mormons clearly value happiness on Earth, and they have the pithy quotes to prove it.  If you ask me (and nobody is) happiness is pretty much the point of any spiritual journey.  I mean, deep down, the idea of eternal bliss after death ought to make life […]

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Posted in Agency, Christian, Church Policy, Criticism, Culture, emotions, Empathy, Faith, faith crisis, gender equity, LDS, Mental Health, Morality, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion, Pride, Religion, Women | 70 Comments »

Emotional Labor

April 26, 2016
Emotional Labor

“Women are just better at that stuff.”  This is a phrase often used to wash one’s hands of an unpleasant task.  It reminds me of something I hear sometimes from customers:  “Hispanics just clean houses better than other people.”  If so, why is that?  Not because there’s a house cleaning gene that they are passing […]

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Posted in Agency, Criticism, Culture, emotions, Empathy, Faith, faith crisis, Feminism, Freedom, gender equity, Gratitude, LDS, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion, Patriarchy, Priesthood, Temple, theology, Women, workplace | 29 Comments »

Natural Consequences

April 21, 2016
Natural Consequences

An overarching sense of justice runs through Mormon beliefs. “And thus we see” is usually followed by a nightmare scenario for those who weren’t listening to God in the first place.  Our young women stand and chant a mantra every week that includes embracing the virtue of “Choice & Accountability.” And if you paid any […]

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Posted in Agency, BYU, BYU-Idaho, Feminism, Honor Code, Modesty, Mormon Culture, Patriarchy, Women | 67 Comments »

Mormon Feminism: An Anthology for the Ages

April 18, 2016
Mormon Feminism:  An Anthology for the Ages

“We began as a group of women talking about our lives.”  So begins the collection of essays that comprise Mormon Feminism:  Essential Writings (in the words of Claudia Bushman).  And so begins feminism in general, for certainly this is how women shared their experiences and talked about their struggles.  There’s something powerful about a group of women talking […]

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Posted in Agency, Charity, Christian, Church Policy, Criticism, Culture, Doctrine, Empathy, Faith, faith crisis, Feminism, LDS, leadership, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion, Women | 29 Comments »

Refugees of Our Own Making

April 12, 2016
Refugees of Our Own Making

Today we are honored to hear from guest blogger, Bryce Cook. Two of the most moving talks at this month’s General Conference were Sister Linda Burton’s “I Was a Stranger” and Elder Patrick Kearon’s “Refuge from the Storm,” which were about administering relief to the world’s refugees. The Church has even set up a special website to educate people […]

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Posted in Agency, America, Charity, Christian, Church Policy, Criticism, Culture, Doctrine, Empathy, Freedom, gender equity, LDS, LGBT, Mental Health, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion | 33 Comments »

Honorable Mention Dissidents?

April 11, 2016
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A few weeks ago, Rock Waterman announced that he was pleased to be included in a list of top ten LDS Dissidents and Troublemakers.  I read through the list of the top ten, wondering why John Dehlin was merely an honorable mention.  I also wondered who Adrian Larsen was.  I had never heard of him. […]

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Posted in Agency, Apostasy, Blind Obedience, Criticism, Culture, Excommunication, Faith, Jesus, Joseph Smith, LDS, LGBT, Mormon, Mormon Culture, Reviews | 17 Comments »

Church as a Gated Community

March 28, 2016
Church as a Gated Community

At the end of the book Planted, Patrick Mason makes the analogy of church being like living in a gated community, but one with open gates that welcomes others to come in. In the meantime, we live in houses in a gated community that paradoxically swings open its gate for all to enter.  Yet like […]

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Posted in Agency, America, Criticism, Culture, Faith, faith crisis, Freedom, LDS, leadership, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion, Religion | 40 Comments »

TW: Trigger Warnings

March 22, 2016
TW:  Trigger Warnings

For those who participate in online discussion forums, you have doubtless encountered what are termed “trigger warnings.”  There seem to be two schools of thought about them.  One school says they are necessary to protect individuals in discussions from the emotional distress of reliving past traumatic events.  Another school says that everything’s becoming a trigger […]

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Posted in Agency, Criticism, Culture, faith crisis, Feminism, Freedom, gender equity, LDS, Mental Health, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion, Patriarchy, Politics, Race Relations, Violence, Women, workplace | 24 Comments »

Does God Agree With Your Politics?

March 16, 2016
Does God Agree With Your Politics?

My opinion is not a popular one, especially among Mormons. It’s based on one of my foundational beliefs that I still maintain from my days as a centrist: both sides of our political divide are founded on sound principles that are imperfectly applied – because we’re humans. (Just like I believe our Church organization is […]

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Posted in Agency, Alternative Sunday School Lessons, America, economics, Freedom, History, money, Mormon Discussion, Politics | 20 Comments »

The Mormon Urge to Glurge

March 15, 2016
The Mormon Urge to Glurge

glurge (GLURJ) n. A sentimental or uplifting story, particularly one delivered via e-mail, that uses inaccurate or fabricated facts; a story that is mawkish or maudlin; the genre consisting of such stories. Not a day goes by that I do not get some sort of email glurge from a relative, old friend or ward member. […]

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Posted in Agency, Criticism, Culture, emotions, Empathy, Gratitude, LDS, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Sunday School, Truth. Lying | 39 Comments »

Of Brazen Serpents and Golden Calves

March 10, 2016
Of Brazen Serpents and Golden Calves

He removed the high places, and brake the images, and cut down the groves, and brake in pieces the brasen serpent that Moses had made … It is interesting to compare brass serpents and golden calves and other things.  By taking the two different images  that were raised it, it lets me compare and contrast […]

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Gender Soup with Roles

March 8, 2016
Gender Soup with Roles

According to the Proclamation on the Family, gender is an eternal characteristic.  The proclamation goes on to describe certain traits within marriage as male and others as female.  The problem is twofold:  diction and science.  On the diction side, words used to describe gender are often unclear, imprecise, outdated or simply not the right word.  Saying […]

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Posted in Agency, Charity, Criticism, Culture, emotions, Feminism, Freedom, gender equity, LDS, leadership, LGBT, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion, Women, workplace | 44 Comments »

Boys Need Not Apply

February 29, 2016
Boys Need Not Apply

A friend was recently crowdsourcing because her son is interested in babysitting, and he even said he wanted to take some classes to make himself more ready to babysit.  He’s an oldest child, very responsible, and he likes kids.  While most of her friends were supportive of his ambitions, a few raised concerns about boys […]

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Posted in Agency, Christian, Criticism, Culture, Doctrine, emotions, Empathy, Faith, faith crisis, LDS, LGBT, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Women, workplace | 28 Comments »

The Road Not Taken

February 23, 2016
The Road Not Taken

Everyone’s heard the Robert Frost poem The Road Not Taken. [1]  Often people mistakenly focus on the notion of the path taken being the less traveled route, not the one that others take, or in other words, they see this as being primarily about marching to the beat of your own drummer, doing your own […]

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Posted in Agency, Apostasy, BYU, Culture, doubt, Education, emotions, Empathy, LDS, Mental Health, Morality, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion, Religion, Uncategorized | 9 Comments »

Dead Free Will and Choice?

February 21, 2016
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I’m pretty active in genealogy and finding names for the temple.  Recently I participated in some temple sealings on behalf of the dead.  The ceremonies are essentially the same between the living and the dead except for the addition of the following words “Bro/Sis Brown in behalf of {fill in the name} who is dead”.  […]

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Posted in Agency, Church Policy, Doctrine, LDS, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Temple, theology | 2 Comments »

Families vs. Dynasties

February 9, 2016
Families vs. Dynasties

A recent disturbing trend surfaced in Mormon internet groups in which parents wrote letters to their young adult children explaining that if they did not stay active in the church, they would be cut from the inheritance.  At roughly the same time, LDS Philanthropies published a video featuring a father who said that if his […]

Posted in Agency, Apostasy, Atheism, Blind Obedience, Charity, Christian, Church Policy, Criticism, Culture, debt, doubt, Empathy, Faith, faith crisis, Freedom | 21 Comments »

If You Let a Woman Hold Her Baby . . .

February 2, 2016
If You Let a Woman Hold Her Baby . . .

I only recently (in the last few years) became aware that the church handbook prohibits women from holding their babies while babies are being blessed unless the bishop wants to make a case-by-case exception.  In our Singapore ward, all women held their babies while the babies were blessed.  That’s the last time I was in […]

Posted in Agency, Church Policy, Criticism, Culture, Empathy, faith crisis, Feminism, LDS, leadership, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Patriarchy, Women | 41 Comments »

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