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Mean Girls Jesus

June 23, 2015
Mean Girls Jesus

Psychological projection is a theory in psychology in which humans defend themselves against unpleasant impulses by denying their existence in themselves, while attributing them to others. For example, a person who is rude may constantly accuse other people of being rude.  A person who is judgmental will accuse others of being judgmental.  For this reason, […]

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Posted in Agency, BYU, Culture, emotions, Empathy, Faith, faith crisis, Feminism, Freedom, gender equity, LDS, Morality, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion, Politics, Pride, Women | 24 Comments »

Authenticity: Will the Real Me Please Stand Up?

June 16, 2015
Authenticity:  Will the Real Me Please Stand Up?

It’s a common claim among participants of Mormon internet groups that people feel they cannot be themselves at church or can’t say what they think for fear of being ostracized.  They feel they are discouraged from being honest or authentic, that they would be rejected if they disagreed with the party line or articulated a non-conforming […]

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Posted in Agency, Charity, Christian, Culture, emotions, Freedom, Jesus, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion, Uncategorized, understanding | 16 Comments »

“Caitlyn Jenner, Welcome to being a Woman in America!”

June 15, 2015
“Caitlyn Jenner, Welcome to being a Woman in America!”

Last week the news has been filled with Bruce/Caitlyn Jenner’s transformation from a man to a woman, and the Vanity Fair photo shoot.  I’m not sure how you feel about the issue.  Jon Stewart gave a very interesting take on the topic, and it was a very interesting monologue that was a bit different than […]

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Posted in Feminism, Freedom, gender equity, LGBT, Mental Health, Mormon, theology, Women | 72 Comments »

Duty, Conformity, Authority, Obedience

June 9, 2015
Duty, Conformity, Authority, Obedience

These four virtues have held prime real estate in recent generations, and are still considered top virtues by many:  duty, conformity, authority, and obedience.  But within the 1900s and into our century, these virtues have also come under fire, their downside exposed.  These four virtues didn’t originate in scripture but are popular cultural values.  For example, […]

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Posted in Agency, Criticism, Culture, Empathy, Faith, Freedom, LDS, Morality, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Politics | 33 Comments »

O Say, What is Doubt?

May 19, 2015
O Say, What is Doubt?

E. Bednar’s recent comments disparaging doubt (in an innovative youth meeting with a Q&A) seem to imply a different definition of the word than most who experience doubt would use, as evidenced by some of the chatter about it.  Why is that?  Let’s explore what he and other church leaders might mean when they talk […]

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Posted in Agency, Charity, Criticism, Culture, debt, Faith, faith crisis, Freedom, General Conference, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion | 67 Comments »

“I Can’t. I’m Mormon.”

May 12, 2015
“I Can’t.  I’m Mormon.”

A few years ago, my boss excitedly said she had a real treat for the two of us to share.  It was a special tea from London that someone had bought her on a business trip.  I explained that I didn’t drink tea (although I do drink herbal tea).  She asked why I didn’t drink […]

Posted in Agency, Criticism, Culture, Feminism, Freedom, LDS, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion, Uncategorized, War in Heaven | 46 Comments »

Criticism

April 28, 2015
Criticism

I was thinking about E. Oaks’ comments in General Conference about criticism.  Talking about things that prevent us from benefiting from the gospel, he said: Another potential destroyer of spiritual roots—accelerated by current technology but not unique to it—is the keyhole view of the gospel or the Church. This limited view focuses on a particular doctrine or […]

Posted in Agency, Apostasy, Blind Obedience, Criticism, Culture, emotions, Faith, faith crisis, Freedom, General Conference, LDS, leadership, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion, Pride, Priesthood | 42 Comments »

Gaslighting and You

April 27, 2015
Gaslighting and You

Preface. I’ve written about communicating with general authorities and others in a hierarchy, and about understanding people who have spent most of their lives spending most of their time deferring gratification and caring for others. The last significant post in that series was “On Being Heard.” This post takes up where that left off, years […]

Posted in Agency, Apostasy, Criticism, Culture, emotions, Empathy, Faith, Freedom, LDS, Mental Health, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion, Uncategorized | 16 Comments »

Nazi Mormons

April 20, 2015
Nazi Mormons

“We believe in being subject to kings, presidents, rulers, and magistrates, in obeying, honoring, and sustaining the law”, states the 12th Article of Faith. So how does the LDS Church respond when missionaries are in a country where Nazis take over the government? David Conley Nelson gives a fascinating history of Mormons in Nazi Germany […]

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Posted in Church Policy, Culture, Freedom, Jewish Studies, LDS, leadership, Mission, Morality, Mormon, Mormon Culture, Uncategorized | 20 Comments »

Sarcasm

April 14, 2015
Sarcasm

I’m addicted to exercise.  And by exercise, I mean sarcasm. An article about sarcasm recently explained why sarcastic people are smarter on average:  because sarcasm requires more mental effort than just plain speech.  Which is probably why when someone fails to grasp it, my first instinct is to think they are too stupid to follow. […]

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Posted in Agency, Criticism, Culture, emotions, Feminism, Freedom, gender equity, General Conference, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion, Resting bitch face | 36 Comments »

April 2015 Gen Conf in GIFs

April 7, 2015
April 2015 Gen Conf in GIFs

For those who watched at home, this General Conference was one for the ages with many excellent talks and a few exciting moments.  Read on. What were your favorite parts? Discuss.

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Posted in Agency, Church Policy, Criticism, Culture, Doctrine, emotions, Faith, faith crisis, Feminism, Freedom, LDS, leadership, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion | 20 Comments »

Utah’s Solution for Discrimination and Religious Liberty

April 6, 2015
Utah’s Solution for Discrimination and Religious Liberty

A recent law passed in Indiana has put the state in an unusual spotlight.  Proponents claim that their law uses essentially the same language as the 1993 federal Religious Freedom Restoration Act (RFRA) that passed with near unanimous support.  However, one thing Indiana has done that the federal statute did not is expand the reach of the religious […]

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Posted in Christian, Church Policy, Freedom, LDS, LGBT, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture | 36 Comments »

Northern Ireland’s Gay Cake

March 26, 2015
Northern Ireland’s Gay Cake

Today and tomorrow the case brought by Gareth Lee, a volunteer with the Queer Space collective, supported by the Equality Commission of Northern Ireland against Asher’s Bakery supported by The Christian Institute is to be heard in court. So far as I can tell, this particular cake differs from similar cases in the US in […]

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Posted in Agency, Christian, Culture, Freedom, LGBT, Morality, Politics, Uncategorized | 26 Comments »

Marriage For Now

March 23, 2015
Marriage For Now

Is it looking past the mark to think of our marriages as eternal rather than thinking of what we need in the here and now and in the near future?  Do we focus so much on eternity that we are just barely enduring to the end in the day-to-day marriage? Last week I re-posted a review […]

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Posted in Agency, BYU, Culture, economics, Education, emotions, Feminism, Freedom, gender equity, LDS, Morality, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion | 37 Comments »

The Myth of Traditional Marriage

March 17, 2015
The Myth of Traditional Marriage

According to the song, love and marriage go together like a horse and carriage.  But when it comes to the history of marriage, pairing marriage with love is putting the cart before the horse.  If we look at why people used to get married, traditionally, we’ll quickly see why marriages today are less stable.  And why […]

Posted in Agency, America, Church Policy, Criticism, Culture, economics, Education, emotions, Europe, Feminism, Freedom, gender equity, LDS, money, Morality, Mormon, Mormon Culture, understanding, Violence, Women | 73 Comments »

The Stories We Choose to Tell

March 12, 2015
The Stories We Choose to Tell

The stories we hear and are surrounded by frame our world, influence our outlook and understanding. They affect our sense of who we are, and our place in the world. They can broaden our horizons, or keep us to a narrow focus. What do the stories we find in our lesson manuals and church magazines […]

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Posted in Culture, Education, Freedom, History, LDS, Mission, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Politics, Polygamy, Priesthood, seminary, Sunday School, Uncategorized | 14 Comments »

Is Belief in Polygamy Required for Church Membership?

March 10, 2015
Is Belief in Polygamy Required for Church Membership?

A blogger faces excommunication for his OP stating that he does not believe D&C 132 and the early church practice of polygamy to have been inspired.  In his blog post, he affirms that marriage is between one man and one woman, the church’s current teaching.  If I were tasked with defending this individual, here’s what […]

Posted in Agency, Apostasy, Blind Obedience, Book of Mormon, Criticism, Culture, Doctrine, doubt, Faith, Freedom, gender equity, LDS, leadership, Morality, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion, Patriarchy, Polygamy, Prophet, scriptures, Temple, theology, Women | 113 Comments »

That Moment When You Realize You Are Talking to Crazy People

March 2, 2015
That Moment When You Realize You Are Talking to Crazy People

Have you ever been in a discussion at church in which the discussion was so far afield that you found yourself thinking “We have completely lost it.  We are talking total nonsense”? Recently I was called to be the ward trek coordinator. [1]  Our stake has never done a pioneer trek before, so I’m not […]

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Posted in Agency, Church Policy, Criticism, Culture, emotions, Freedom, LDS, leadership, Mental Health, Morality, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture | 65 Comments »

The Faith Crisis Biz

February 10, 2015
The Faith Crisis Biz

A recent Trib article explains that Mormon Stories and other monetized podcasts have been a sole source of income for some of the individuals that conduct the interviews.  This isn’t a surprise to many people, although it’s impressive that there’s been enough donated to support salaries for individuals’ families. At some point, all Mormon blogs […]

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Posted in Agency, Alternative Sunday School Lessons, Apostasy, Church Policy, Criticism, Culture, Doctrine, emotions, Excommunication, Faith, faith crisis, Feminism, Freedom, gender equity, LDS, leadership, LGBT, Morality, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Politics, Pride, Technology | 25 Comments »

Explaining Belief & Disbelief

February 3, 2015
Explaining Belief & Disbelief

A discussion in an online forum asked participants the question:  “How do you explain that you no longer believe without offending people who do believe?”  It’s an important question, and one that many people really struggle with.  As church members, we aren’t just believers or non-believers, but members of a community that socializes together, whose kids […]

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Posted in Agency, Criticism, Culture, doubt, emotions, Faith, faith crisis, Freedom, LDS, LGBT, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion, Pride | 35 Comments »

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