Mormon Culture

10 Things That Will Kill You Faster than Diet Coke

May 26, 2015
10 Things That Will Kill You Faster than Diet Coke

Noticing how tired I was one morning for my workout, my personal trainer asked if I drink coffee or tea which he was recommending so I wouldn’t be so tired in the morning [1].  I said no, but I drink Diet Coke.  He looked at me like I had just admitted to smoking heroin.  I […]

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Posted in Agency, Culture, Mental Health, Mormon, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion | 29 Comments »

Stuck in a Calling

May 24, 2015
Stuck in a Calling

Our ward recently split.  One of my neighbors was called into the Bishop’s Office where they said, “We feel inspired to call you as Primary Pianist.”  She responded, “You don’t feel inspired.  You know that I play the piano and you need a pianist.  I’ve been primary pianist for the last 10 years.  I’ll do […]

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Posted in Culture, LDS, Mormon, Mormon Culture | 27 Comments »

O Say, What is Doubt?

May 19, 2015
O Say, What is Doubt?

E. Bednar’s recent comments disparaging doubt (in an innovative youth meeting with a Q&A) seem to imply a different definition of the word than most who experience doubt would use, as evidenced by some of the chatter about it.  Why is that?  Let’s explore what he and other church leaders might mean when they talk […]

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Posted in Agency, Charity, Criticism, Culture, debt, Faith, faith crisis, Freedom, General Conference, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion | 67 Comments »

“I Can’t. I’m Mormon.”

May 12, 2015
“I Can’t.  I’m Mormon.”

A few years ago, my boss excitedly said she had a real treat for the two of us to share.  It was a special tea from London that someone had bought her on a business trip.  I explained that I didn’t drink tea (although I do drink herbal tea).  She asked why I didn’t drink […]

Posted in Agency, Criticism, Culture, Feminism, Freedom, LDS, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion, Uncategorized, War in Heaven | 46 Comments »

Mother’s Day

May 10, 2015
Mother’s Day

What thoughts would you like to say about your Mother on this day?  (Pretend this is a virtual Sacrament meeting.)

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Posted in Christian, LDS, Mormon, Mormon Culture, Women | 3 Comments »

Mormon Mommy Wars: Mother’s Day

May 8, 2015
Mormon Mommy Wars: Mother’s Day

I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but how to celebrate Mother’s Day is always a complicated issue for most Mormon communities. If you think about it, the poor bishopric just can’t please everyone. For every woman who hates flowers there is one who dislikes chocolate or ________. If you have all the mothers stand up […]

Posted in Infertility, Mormon Culture, Women | 42 Comments »

Mormons in Politics in Britain

May 7, 2015
Mormons in Politics in Britain

“Principles compatible with the gospel are found in the platforms of all major political parties. While the Church does not endorse political candidates, platforms, or parties, members are urged to be full participants in political, governmental, and community affairs.” (mormon.org) During one Institute discussion group back in my student days the Institute director told us […]

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Posted in Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Politics, Uncategorized | 16 Comments »

Proudly Stupid

May 5, 2015
Proudly Stupid

See, this is why our theological amateurism is so lamentable. It’s pure zeal without knowledge, to borrow from Nibley’s brilliant observation. I know we take pride in being stupid, but it’s pride all the same. – RJH When I read this comment by RJH last week on BCC, it immediately resonated.  The Spirit testified of […]

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Posted in Apostasy, Blind Obedience, BYU, Church Policy, Criticism, Culture, Doctrine, Education, emotions, Faith, LDS, leadership, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion, Politics, Uncategorized | 30 Comments »

Can BYU afford to avoid Sunday play?

May 4, 2015
Can BYU afford to avoid Sunday play?

It has been more than 30 years since BYU won a National Championship in football.  Things have changed quite a bit since 1984.  Many of the larger schools were upset that the undefeated BYU team (who played in the Western Athletic Conference-WAC) played a 6-6 Michigan team in its final game, and changes soon followed. […]

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Posted in BYU, Christian, Church Policy, LDS, Mission, Mormon, Mormon Culture | 18 Comments »

Stake Priesthood Meeting

May 3, 2015
Stake Priesthood Meeting

It seems like once or twice a year, each stake will hold a General Priesthood Meeting.  It is usually on a Sunday, very early in the morning.  Ours is a 6:30 AM.  Why the ridiculously early hour?  It seems like the leaders pick this time because who needs sleep?  The rationale is that nobody has […]

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Posted in Church Policy, LDS, leadership, Mormon, Mormon Culture, Priesthood | 40 Comments »

I Will Follow God’s Plan For Me

May 1, 2015
I Will Follow God’s Plan For Me

Rewind to 2002 with me for a moment: It had been six months of waiting for a baby and every month we bought those pregnancy tests: so excited!  {Just kidding, false alarm x 6!} After graduating with my AA degree in Office Systems Management (I didn’t want to be ambitious, I was just sent to make […]

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Posted in Faith, Infertility, Mormon Culture | 20 Comments »

Criticism

April 28, 2015
Criticism

I was thinking about E. Oaks’ comments in General Conference about criticism.  Talking about things that prevent us from benefiting from the gospel, he said: Another potential destroyer of spiritual roots—accelerated by current technology but not unique to it—is the keyhole view of the gospel or the Church. This limited view focuses on a particular doctrine or […]

Posted in Agency, Apostasy, Blind Obedience, Criticism, Culture, emotions, Faith, faith crisis, Freedom, General Conference, LDS, leadership, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion, Pride, Priesthood | 42 Comments »

Gaslighting and You

April 27, 2015
Gaslighting and You

Preface. I’ve written about communicating with general authorities and others in a hierarchy, and about understanding people who have spent most of their lives spending most of their time deferring gratification and caring for others. The last significant post in that series was “On Being Heard.” This post takes up where that left off, years […]

Posted in Agency, Apostasy, Criticism, Culture, emotions, Empathy, Faith, Freedom, LDS, Mental Health, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion, Uncategorized | 16 Comments »

Socks in font?

April 26, 2015
Socks in font?

My son and I decided to do a temple trip.  Rather than visit Mt. Timpanogos Temple, we went to the Oquirrh Mountain Temple to do baptisms for the dead.  At Timp, most patrons are barefoot to enter the water.  At Oquirrh, they asked everyone to put on socks.  It seems to me that socks make […]

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Posted in Church Policy, Modesty, Mormon, Mormon Culture, Temple | 13 Comments »

Mormons Suck at Empathy

April 24, 2015
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Let me clarify: it’s human nature to suck at empathy, but I think that Mormons are under obligation to be better at empathy because of the covenants we have made. I believe the heart of Christlike discipleship requires empathy. I believe ministering to each other is impossible with out it. If we want to be […]

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Posted in Charity, Christian, emotions, Empathy, General Conference, Gratitude, Infertility, Mormon Culture | 39 Comments »

“The Prophet Said to Plant a Garden”

April 23, 2015
“The Prophet Said to Plant a Garden”

Do you have a garden, plant one, and how successful are you? Do you prefer to grow in pots? Green fingers are not a talent I possess, and I can’t say gardening is something I enjoy. My only really successful crops over the years have been tomatoes. There were plenty of them, and as the […]

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Posted in Culture, Mormon Culture | 39 Comments »

Top 10 Rejected Ideas for Keeping Millenials in the Church

April 21, 2015
Top 10 Rejected Ideas for Keeping Millenials in the Church

It’s no secret that church leaders are concerned about those who leave, particularly those of the rising generation.  What is less well known is the strategy to help them stay active in the church and into their adult lives. Less well known until now that is.  The following list was found in a secret trash […]

Posted in Agency, Church Policy, Faith, gender equity, General Conference, LDS, leadership, LGBT, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion | 15 Comments »

Nazi Mormons

April 20, 2015
Nazi Mormons

“We believe in being subject to kings, presidents, rulers, and magistrates, in obeying, honoring, and sustaining the law”, states the 12th Article of Faith. So how does the LDS Church respond when missionaries are in a country where Nazis take over the government? David Conley Nelson gives a fascinating history of Mormons in Nazi Germany […]

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Posted in Church Policy, Culture, Freedom, Jewish Studies, LDS, leadership, Mission, Morality, Mormon, Mormon Culture, Uncategorized | 20 Comments »

Sarcasm

April 14, 2015
Sarcasm

I’m addicted to exercise.  And by exercise, I mean sarcasm. An article about sarcasm recently explained why sarcastic people are smarter on average:  because sarcasm requires more mental effort than just plain speech.  Which is probably why when someone fails to grasp it, my first instinct is to think they are too stupid to follow. […]

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Posted in Agency, Criticism, Culture, emotions, Feminism, Freedom, gender equity, General Conference, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion, Resting bitch face | 36 Comments »

The Givens Test

April 13, 2015
The Givens Test

I’ve listened to a few podcasts with Terryl and Fiona Givens and right now I’m reading Crucible of Doubt. Several times they have talked about unorthodox members of the church speaking up in their home wards and being more honest and authentic about their testimonies: “The pressure to conform to what we see as a dominant cultural orthodoxy […]

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Posted in Criticism, Doctrine, doubt, faith crisis, General Conference, Mormon Culture | 57 Comments »

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