Posts Tagged ‘ marriage ’

The Article on Marriage: What Is (Was) It?

August 4, 2016
The Article on Marriage:  What Is (Was) It?

Many LDS Church members don’t know about its first official statement on the subject of marriage. With all of the current brouhaha over what constitutes a marriage, I thought it would be fun to acquaint you with this piece of history. On August 17, 1835, Priesthood and members assembled in Kirtland, Ohio to vote on […]

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Posted in Church Policy, Community of Christ, LDS, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Temple, Tradition | 16 Comments »

Happiness vs. Marriage

July 5, 2016
Happiness vs. Marriage

A recent New York Times article talked about the psychological reasons we choose our marital partners, and those reasons were far less designed to result in our happiness than we might expect. Because we lack self-awareness about our wishes and rationales, we are unaware of both what we need and what we seek in marriage. But though […]

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Posted in Agency, emotions, Empathy, faith crisis, LDS, Mental Health, Morality, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion, Religion, Women | 19 Comments »

Emotional Labor

April 26, 2016
Emotional Labor

“Women are just better at that stuff.”  This is a phrase often used to wash one’s hands of an unpleasant task.  It reminds me of something I hear sometimes from customers:  “Hispanics just clean houses better than other people.”  If so, why is that?  Not because there’s a house cleaning gene that they are passing […]

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Posted in Agency, Criticism, Culture, emotions, Empathy, Faith, faith crisis, Feminism, Freedom, gender equity, Gratitude, LDS, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion, Patriarchy, Priesthood, Temple, theology, Women, workplace | 29 Comments »

Gender Soup with Roles

March 8, 2016
Gender Soup with Roles

According to the Proclamation on the Family, gender is an eternal characteristic.  The proclamation goes on to describe certain traits within marriage as male and others as female.  The problem is twofold:  diction and science.  On the diction side, words used to describe gender are often unclear, imprecise, outdated or simply not the right word.  Saying […]

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Posted in Agency, Charity, Criticism, Culture, emotions, Feminism, Freedom, gender equity, LDS, leadership, LGBT, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion, Women, workplace | 44 Comments »

The Policy & The Commodification of Marriage

January 12, 2016
The Policy & The Commodification of Marriage

When I was a YW, I had a nightmare about my imaginary future marriage.  I dreamed that my parents had arranged a marriage for me with a “worthy” young man.  He came to my parents’ house to live, and when it was time to go to bed, he came out of the bathroom wearing 1950s […]

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Posted in Agency, BYU, Charity, Christian, Church Policy, Criticism, Culture, doubt, emotions, Empathy, Faith, faith crisis, LDS, leadership, LGBT, Morality, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion, Patriarchy, Women | 37 Comments »

No tuxedo

November 29, 2015
No tuxedo

A friend was looking through the temple policies book.  It said that grooms are not supposed to wear tuxedos to the temple, and temple workers are supposed to let them know before they come to the temple.  It is acceptable to wear them after the temple ceremony.  Of course this requires them to bring two […]

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Posted in Church Policy, LDS, Mormon, Mormon Culture | 30 Comments »

Choices, Choices

October 20, 2015
Choices, Choices

I’ve been reflecting a lot on E. Quentin Cook’s talk called “Choose Wisely.”  This was the opening talk of the Priesthood session in April 2015, so I suppose that makes me not the target audience, and yet it’s clearly a talk with universal application. [1]  I won’t let that stop me. E. Cook begins by […]

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Posted in Agency, Christian, Culture, Doctrine, Education, emotions, Empathy, General Conference, LDS, leadership, LGBT, Morality, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion, Politics | 18 Comments »

Bride and Groom together

September 6, 2015
Bride and Groom together

There is an old tradition that if the groom sees the bride before the wedding, it is bad luck.  According to BridalGuide During the time when arranged marriages were custom, the betrothed couple wasn’t allowed to see each other before the wedding at all. The wedding symbolized a business deal between two families (romantic, huh?), […]

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Posted in Church Policy, LDS, Mormon, Mormon Culture, Temple | 9 Comments »

On being a disciple and defending marriage

August 15, 2015
On being a disciple and defending marriage

In an article of the August 2015 Ensign, President Russell M. Nelson declares, “Disciples of the Lord are defenders of traditional marriage.  We cannot yield.  History is not our judge.  A secular society is not our judge.  God is our judge!” “Traditional marriage”.  Interesting term. This week, the term “traditional marriage” had an interesting wrinkle in the […]

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Posted in gender equity, LDS, LGBT, Mormon, Polygamy | 133 Comments »

Habits of Affection & Loyalty

August 11, 2015
Habits of Affection & Loyalty

A recent discussion at By Common Consent about the role of public affairs, and whether church members are permitted to disagree with the Newsroom [1] led to the following comment by Nate Oman: I do, however, think that the Bloggernacle at times mistakes arrogance, cynicism, and posturing for intellectual insight, moral nuance, and righteous indignation. […]

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Posted in Agency, Anti-Mormon, Apostasy, Criticism, Culture, Empathy, LDS, leadership, LGBT, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion, Politics | 24 Comments »

Survey Invitation: Marital Quality & Changes in Belief

July 17, 2015
Survey Invitation:  Marital Quality & Changes in Belief

A topic often under discussion in the bloggernacle is how to navigate marriages when one spouse has a change in belief.  If this describes your marriage, please follow the link to participate.  Eligibility requirements are below. https://iu.co1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_6tYdXEwogQ9PKK1

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Posted in Agency, Culture, Education, emotions, Empathy, Faith, faith crisis, Feminism, Freedom, gender equity, LDS, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion | 13 Comments »

Marriage For Now

March 23, 2015
Marriage For Now

Is it looking past the mark to think of our marriages as eternal rather than thinking of what we need in the here and now and in the near future?  Do we focus so much on eternity that we are just barely enduring to the end in the day-to-day marriage? Last week I re-posted a review […]

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Posted in Agency, BYU, Culture, economics, Education, emotions, Feminism, Freedom, gender equity, LDS, Morality, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion | 37 Comments »

You be You

February 27, 2015
You be You

Nate’s post this week refers to balancing masculine/feminine dualities, and it got me thinking about a book my sister-in-law had me read last year. I don’t know if you’ve heard about “energy profiling,” apparently it’s a thing in Utah because Carol Tuttle, a Mormon woman, has developed her own business with an online class that […]

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Posted in Culture, Feminism, LDS, Mental Health, Mormon Culture, Women | 9 Comments »

Preaching Marriage: What Works for One…

February 26, 2015
Preaching Marriage: What Works for One…

What works for one won’t necessarily work for all. I’ve been following the comments on Hawkgrrrl’s recent post about dating with interest, particularly in light of Elder Holland’s recent address to the CES folk. The relevant portions of his speech, in which he raises a number of reasons why our young people may be delaying […]

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Posted in Church Policy, Culture, debt, Education, LDS, seminary, Uncategorized | 54 Comments »

Is TLC’s Show “My Husband’s NOT Gay” Offensive to Gays?

January 9, 2015
Is TLC’s Show “My Husband’s NOT Gay” Offensive to Gays?

 TLC has a controversial new show called “My Husband’s NOT Gay” about Mormon men with SSA (same-sex attraction) who are married to women.   GLAAD, an LGBT advocacy group had this to say about it:  “This show is downright irresponsible.  No one can change who they love, and, more importantly, no one should have to. […]

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Posted in Uncategorized | 33 Comments »

Pondering on Polygamy

November 20, 2014
Pondering on Polygamy

When did you first hear about polygamy*, and what has your experience been with this topic? What attitudes have you observed? Growing up in the church in here in Britain, non-members would raise the issue of polygamy, as in “Mormon, that’s the religion where the men can have lots of wives”. And we’d then have […]

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Posted in Church Policy, Culture, Doctrine, gender equity, LDS, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Polygamy, Women | 43 Comments »

President Henry B. Eyring at the Vatican Summit on Marriage

November 19, 2014
Henry B. Eyring

Do only “a man and a woman, united in marriage, have a transcendent power to create happiness”?

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Posted in gender equity, LGBT, Mormon | 11 Comments »

President Eyring off to the Vatican

November 6, 2014
President Eyring off to the Vatican

It was announced Monday that President Henry B. Eyring would be attending “The Complementarity of Man and Woman: An International Colloquium” to be held in the Vatican 17-19 November. From the colloquium website, this is “a gathering of leaders and scholars from many religions across the globe, to examine and propose anew the beauty of […]

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Posted in Christian, Culture, gender equity, LDS, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Mormon Discussion, Politics, Roman Catholic Church, theology, Uncategorized, understanding, Women | 28 Comments »

Sex & the Single Mormon (Weekend Poll)

August 2, 2014
Sex & the Single Mormon (Weekend Poll)

Being single and celibate is no picnic.  What if that single status stretches on for much longer than hoped? Discuss.

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Posted in Agency, Apostasy, Church Policy, Doctrine, Faith, Mission, Morality, Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Uncategorized | 31 Comments »

Sealing Explanation

May 29, 2014
Sealing Explanation

I attended some sealings at the temple recently.  During a break, the sealer noted that when a woman is being sealed to a man, she is asked to “give herself” to the man, and “receive him unto herself”, but the man is only asked to receive, not to give.  (In a previous post, I mentioned the […]

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Posted in Mormon, Mormon Belief, Mormon Culture, Women | 45 Comments »

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